I have been thinking lately about how many things in the world do not happen because we are too afraid of what others think of us if we do them.
How many times do we end up not starting new adventures because we worry what others say before even attempting it (e.g., changing jobs, changing city or country, changing things that are important to us).
I know it is the reason I haven’t started, or has taken me longer to start, new things.
The fear of what others think of us is the best censorship. It is self-imposed.
At its essence, it is an instinctive reaction. If we feel the heat of the fire, we instinctively remove our hand. This is our brain and the nervous system working as we want them to. To protect our body from physical harm.
What happens when the danger is perceived rather than real? Public speaking? Asking for a promotion?
Our physical reaction is very similar. It is equally dramatic. It feels like you could die. The brain thinks the danger is real and creates what it thinks it is an appropriate reaction.
Except, we are only speaking. In front of people, yes, but only speaking.
What do we do? It feels so bad that we prefer to avoid doing the thing we know it could help us, the thing we want to do. Just to avoid experiencing that physical reaction, that negative emotion.
I’ve now lost 10 kg (approx. 22 pounds). It’s been more than a year and a half ago. I am finally able to keep to my desired weight, and what’s even better is that I know I can do this easily and permanently.
In this post series, I’ll show you how you can also do it. All of it, including the ‘being easy’ part. I’ll explain why it hasn’t worked before and how to make this the last time you do it.
The first question is, when is best time to start?